You can always learn new things about your partner. So if you've been together 50 years or five, about.com has some good suggestions to help make conversation.
- Valentine's Day is important to me. This can open up tons of talking! Maybe it's a subtle way to bring up the fact that you'd at least like a card after 10 years, or maybe it's a time to talk about appreciation in general.
- I think it's OK to ask our parents for financial help or advice. This is probably something for a couple just starting out, but it's good to know, especially since so many couples have financial troubles.
- Quality time to me is the two of us alone. Maybe you prefer time with the family, but your husband wants you to himself sometimes.
- It is all right for a couple to live together before marriage. Even if you're already married, this could be something to think about for your children, kind of a "what will we do if this happens" question.
- Will adoption be a possibility if we can't conceive children? Wow, this is a biggie. Before marriage, I never would have thought this would be important because I never realized how many people have trouble trying to get pregnant. Now, I would recommend seriously discussing this, not just saying oh well we'll cross that bridge when we get to it.
These are just five of many possibilities to keep the communication lines open. You don't always have to contemplate life's mysteries when talking. I think my husband and I have the best conversations about the "what if" questions, and look at life's lighter side instead of always taking ourselves too seriously.
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